She is easy-going and does not bear grudges...

Salaam,

May we benefit from this, insya Allah, because sharing is caring (very much still true) =)

Extracts from Muhammad Ali Hashimi's 'The Ideal Muslimah' book;

The Muslim woman does not bear grudges, and resentment has no room in her heart, because Islam has uprooted hatred from her heart, extinguished the flames of anger, cleansed her soul of enmity, and planted the seeds of sisterly love, tolerance and forgiveness.

Islam has uncompromisingly declared war on ignorance, tribalism, hostility, enmity and revenge, and has made forgiveness, tolerance, love and kindness dearer to the hearts of Muslim men and women. Allah s.w.t. says:

"...Who restrain anger, and pardon all men - for Allah loves those who do good."
(Surah Al-'Imran, ayat 134)

This praise is for those who restrain their anger and do not bear grudges, who have raised themselves to the level of forgiveness and tolerance, which is a high level indeed, and very difficult to attain. None can reach it except those who are pure of heart and have shed the inclination towards hostility, enmity and revenge and thus earned the right to reach the level of ihsaan, and Allah s.w.t. loves those who do good (al-muhsinoon)

Through this noble teaching, Islam was able to penetrate the hearts of the believers, and cleanse and purify them, so that hearts that had been dominated by anger and hatred became hearts that were filled with love and devotion.

For the sake of Allah and His Religion, blood feuds will be forgotten, hostility will vanish, those who previously hated one another will become friends, and the inclinations towards enmity will be uprooted.

(Masya Allah)

Interactions between individuals in an Islamic society that is founded on the brotherhood (or sisterhood) of faith are not based on an attitude of watching for and counting mistakes, or the desire for revenge, or defensiveness; they are based on brotherhood (sisterhood), overlooking errors and tolerance. This is what Islam and the brotherhood (or sisterhood) of faith call for. Allah s.w.t. says:

"And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend. But none is granted it except those who are patient, and none is granted it except one having a great portion [of good]."
(Surah Fussilat, Ayat 34-5)

If evil is always repaid with evil, the result will be intense hatred and bitter grudges. But if evil is repaid with good, it will extinguish the fires of hatred, calm people down, and remove their grudges (insya Allah). The two women who were enemies will become true friends when one of them speaks a kind word or smiles compassionately at the other. This is a great victory for the one who repelled evil with something better, and turned enmity into friendship, hatred to love. No one attains this but persons of the greatest good fortune, as the Qur'an states. Such a person responds to the evil she faces with a measure of patience and self-control, and repels it with something good.

This is the attitude of a true believing woman in a Muslim community that is based on love, friendship and tolerance. Many ayat and hadith reinforce this message and seek to instill this attitude in believers' hearts, always training them to adopt that attitude of forgiveness that will leave no trace of hatred, resentment or malice:

"And We have not created the heavens and earth and that between them except in truth. And indeed, the Hour is coming; so forgive with gracious forgiveness."
(Surah Al-Hijr, Ayat 85)

Hadith of Al-Bayhaqi states that our beloved Prophet Muhammad s.a.w. said:

The way to make amends for backbiting is to pray for the forgiveness of the person whom you have spoken ill of. Say, 'O God, forgive us as well as him'.

Note: Hence, I'm making my peace. (because I'm also a human being who makes mistakes because holy month of Ramadhan is coming, and Syawal is coming, insya Allah and I'm pretty excited!!!)

For those whom I have personally 'attacked' or spoken ill of before, intentionally or unintentionally, I seek your forgiveness here and now, and may Allah reward you accordingly for your generous forgiveness.

Insya Allah, may my dua'a be with you always...

Allahumma fa ayyumma mu'minin sababtuhu faj'al thaalika lahu qurbatan ilaika yawmal-qiyaamati.

O Allah! To any believer whom I have insulted, let that be cause to draw him (or her) near to You on the Day of Resurrection.

Baarakallahu feekum - May Allah bless you all.

Mood: Thoughtful